This Sunday is Father’s Day and it’s also the second anniversary of the day my other passed away. When I was on the airplane on my way to my mother’s bedside the day she died two years ago, I wrote a post about giving our parents our time, not stuff. Here’s that post. I truly believe that we benefit, as do our parents, when we make an effort to spend time with them, especially on holidays. It’s a much better gift than a tie or after shave!
Father’s Day is Sunday and that always makes me want to encourage you not to give gifts that will become clutter. I think this is particularly true of gifts to parents, who may have an especially hard time letting go of items you give them.
I’ve mentioned before that you can give clutter-free gifts like fresh flowers, restaurant gift certificates, or coupons for services. But today I’m thinking about how wonderful it is to give the gift of time to a parent.
I haven’t lived within a thousand miles from my parents since I was 17 and left for college. I’m not sure I’ve spent Father’s Day with my father since 1980. But this year I’ll be there. It wasn’t intentional. My mother has been hospitalized and I’m rushing there to be by her bedside. The bright spot of that is that I’ll be with my 84-year-old father on Father’s Day this year.
Here’s a selfie I took of my dad, Gene Adams, and me at a basketball game last year. He’s a great guy.
Facing the prospect of losing my mother makes me wish I had more often given my parents the gift of time together. Throughout my adult years, I paid at least an annual visit to my parents. As they became elderly, I upped that to twice a year. This is my third visit this year and I have two more scheduled.
If you have the opportunity to spend more time with your parents than you’re currently spending, I urge you to consider scheduling regular outings (or just quiet visits) together while you can. I’d be willing to bet that they’ll be more special to your parent than any physical item you could give them.
I bought a car on Friday, June 9! That doesn’t happen very often and it’s very exciting. I’m 54 and this is only my fifth car. There’s a picture of me with the new ride, taken at Carmax, the used-car dealership where I bought it.
I decided to get a new car because the car I was driving, a 2008 Honda CR-V with 105,000 miles on it, was getting a little long in the tooth and it didn’t have as much cargo space as I’d like. I carry around a lot of bins and storage solutions and it was sometimes a tight fit. This meant I had to schlep bins from my garage across my back yard and into my basement on a regular basis and I was getting tired of it. The lack of cargo space also meant I wasn’t able to help my team members take donations for clients when the client was letting go of a lot of stuff. So I was ready for a car with more cargo space.
The other reason I wanted a new car was that I sick and tired of walking around the open back doors of the car when I was loading up bins. I have a petite two-car garage. (This is a major factor in this story.) I decided I would benefit from driving a van with sliding back doors.
So what’s my secret for making car buying easy? Limit your options!
One of the hardest things for me about a big purchase (or sometimes even a small one) is dealing with all of the options. I’ve learned that I’m much happier making decisions when I have fewer options.
Going into this, I knew a few things:
Sifting the first four factors together, my research revealed there were about two cars that fit the bill. Hooray! My options were immediately limited.
Those two cars were the Ford Transit Connect Wagon and the Dodge Ran Promaster City Wagon. Both are city-oriented, smaller vans (I live in a city) and both are meant for passengers. My car garage was just big enough to accommodate the long wheelbase model of the Transit Connect. The other small van is the Nissan SV200 but it’s a cargo van only without a back seat.
I visited a Dodge dealership and test drove the cargo van version of the Promaster City. I quickly ruled it out—I was looking for more amenities than the Dodge offered. So I had it narrowed down to the Ford.
A little more research revealed two things:
That meant I had two choices: Get a custom-made 2018 car and wait five months (and pay $30,000). Or buy a used car that is at least three years old. I chose the second option.
So I knew what I wanted. I just had to find it. I looked at craigslist to no avail. But I had a better choice. Carmax. I was able to test drive a 2016 version of the car I wanted and then have a 2014 with 23,000 miles transferred from the Columbus, Ohio, Carmax. I paid $250 for the transfer, but wasn’t obligated to buy it. That car had literally everything I wanted on it and then a little more. It was just under $20,000. The only thing I’m not crazy about is the color—it’s a boring silver. But it could be worse. They make it in a bright red that I really don’t like.
Carmax made everything really easy. And it was a no-haggle, no-pressure situation. I sold my CR-V to a friend and brought home the new Transit Connect just a few days ago. I’m tickled pink.
I started my research on May 27 and brought home the car on June 9. For me anyway, that’s fast and painless.
So my secret to easy car buying is to figure out your wants and needs and limit the options to those things. Then find that car, buying used if necessary. Usually compromises need to be made, especially when you’re buying used, but in my case I made none, beyond the color.
I’m hoping for many good years with this van!
My friend and former team member, Julie Hough, has retired her organizing business and moved on to become a Disney vacation planner. I have to admit, I didn’t even know that was an occupation. Now I see the brilliance of it. I asked Julie to write a guest blog post about working with a Disney Vacation Planner. If you’re tempted (and why wouldn’t you be? Her services are free!), I urge you to contact Julie. I worked with her for ten years and know that she is not only very organized, but also kind, generous and extremely fun. She can make your Disney trip fun and stress-free from the moment you start planning!
If you’re thinking about going to Disney World, there are two words that have the power to make or break your vacation. Plan ahead. Even the most carefree and spontaneous people I know have agreed: you have to exercise those organizing and planning muscles if you wish to keep The Happiest Place on Earth from becoming The Most Stressful Place on Earth.
Two families, one who planned ahead and one who didn’t, will come home after a week with Mickey Mouse with two very different experiences. The first will have had the best time of their life, enjoying rides with minimal waiting in lines, navigating the parks with ease, resting and relaxing at their resort pool that offers all the magical extras their kids were hoping for, and creating wonderful family memories that will last a lifetime. The latter will come home having wasted hours of standing in long lines, feeling like they wasted money paying for amenities they never used, frustrated that they didn’t get to see the characters their kids were dying to see because all the FastPasses were gone, and feeling like a whole lot of money was just spent on a vacation that everyone wants to forget.
As a Disney Vacation Planner, the latter example breaks my Mickey-Mouse-loving heart because it doesn’t have to be that way. With some purposeful, thoughtful and knowledgeable planning ahead of time, you can have an amazing Disney experience. Working together, we can get you that magical Disney experience you’re dreaming of, all in an organized and stress-free way. And the best part? My services are FREE.
What’s it like to work with a Disney Vacation Planner? Well, you get the peace of mind knowing someone else is thinking about the details so you can just enjoy your vacation.
Some of the benefits of working with a Disney Vacation Planner:
I can help you with any Disney destination, including Disney Cruises. As a Disney Vacation Planner, it is my JOY to help your family experience Disney in the most organized, stress-free and magical way possible.
If you’re interested in working with Julie, you can call her at 636-399-9725 or email her at email@example.com. You can read more about her services at Enjoy Mouse Travel. She works people all over the world. Oh, and if you have any special-needs kids, Julie has special expertise in taking children with special needs to Disney. Honestly, she rocks.
I have way too many apps on my phone. I’d say I never use at least 80 percent of them. (Obviously, I need to do a big app decluttering one of these days.) But there are some apps on my phone I feel I couldn’t live without. This morning I was thinking about the five phone that I’ve been using on daily (or almost daily) for at least five years. That’s a long time in the life of an app. Hats off to the developers who created such robust apps that have managed to stay really useful without significant changes. (They’ve all been updated, of course.)
Today I’m talking only about third-party apps, not the ones that came with the phone that I also use every day (like camera, timer, weather, activity and calculator). And I’m also not counting social media apps, which are a category of their own.
My go-to iPhone apps, in no particular order:
Milebug I’ve been using this mileage tracker since 2010. I log every business-related trip (which is most of my trips) and simply email myself a spreadsheet at tax time. The habit of taking note of my mileage is deeply engrained and Milebug makes it easy.
Kindle I read a novel every week and I like having my book with me. I prefer to read on my actual Kindle Paperwhite (I like the backlighting), but thanks to the Kindle app, I can read wherever I am, without having to take my Kindle along. If I stop to have lunch by myself, I can read my book on my phone. If I find myself in a waiting room, I can read my book. It synchs with my Paperwhite. It’s indispensable.
Evernote I use Evernote every single day. It’s the backbone of my organizational system and it does a good job of serving as my memory. I prefer to use it on my computer, but when I’m out and about I use the phone app. Honestly, I don’t know what I’d do without it.
Sleep Cycle I learned about Sleep Cycle at the 2012 NAPO conference (I blogged about it here) and it’s definitely my app of choice for my alarm clock. I use it every night, though I no longer keep it on the bed with me. I love its gentle wakeup and the fact that I can keep track of how many hours I slept each night.
Square I was an early adopter of Square, the mobile credit card processing system. I so appreciate that it makes it easy for me to accept credit cards (without a monthly fee). A growing proportion of my clients prefer to pay by credit card, so this easy-to-use app gets lots of use.
I’m sure there are other apps I could add to this list (IMDB comes to mind), but I’ll stop there. I started my business 12 years ago and when I think about the technology changes that have occurred in that time that have helped me run my business, I am so grateful!
You’ve probably seen the various 30-day fitness challenges that have made the rounds. (I’ve tried the 30-day plank challenge and usually make it about 20 days before getting distracted.)
I think these challenges are popular because they build slowly and they have an ending point. That ending point is critical, in my opinion.
For the last couple of years, I’ve instituted what I call 30 × 30 challenges for my genealogy research. On my genealogy blog, Organize Your Family History, I challenge myself and my readers to doing 30 minutes of genealogy research 30 days in a row. I announced my June 2017 30 × 30 challenge yesterday. It’s my fifth such challenge and I find they’re very effective in ensuring that I don’t put my genealogy research on the back burner.
There’s something about the first day of the month that makes me want to make 30-day commitments. So this morning, I created a list of things I intend to do each day for the 30 days of June. In the interest of public accountability, I’ll post them here:
I’ve decided that my key word for June is discipline. Since I know I have to disciplined for just a month (watch out, world, on July 1!), it feels more like an opportunity and less like a sentence.
How about you? Is there anything you would like to commit to doing for 30 days?
I see a lot of clients who have trouble keeping up with the laundry. They may be overwhelmed by the sheer quantity. Or the problem may be that it’s too hard to put it away, so it ends up staying in baskets. Whatever the reason, unfinished (or unstarted) laundry can be a real source of stress.
When I see problems with laundry I know right away that the client probably has a whole lot of clothes. And I know that if they let go of the clothes they don’t love or wear, along with the duplicates they purchased because nothing was clean, their laundry situation would be a lot easier.
In other words, if you streamline your wardrobe, you’ll streamline your laundry. When it’s easy to do something (like washing, drying and putting away the laundry) you’re more likely to stay on top of it. And when you’re top of it, it’s easier to do. It’s a wonderful cycle!
If you’re drowning in laundry, I suggest you take a good hard look at your wardrobe. Start with your closet then move on to your dresser. When you’re through with those spaces, address any piles hanging around in baskets or on the floor. Let go of any garments that don’t make you feel great when you wear them. Donate the ones that don’t fit. If you have any that were purchased more than a year ago but still have tags, let them go. I promise that you will feel lighter and lighter as the donation pile builds.
Once you’ve gone through the clothes and let go of excess (and that includes socks!), organize what you’re keeping by type of clothing and, if you’d like, color. If they don’t all fit in your closet and dresser, take another stab at decluttering. Once your clothes are organized and fit neatly in your storage spaces, your laundry will become easier to do because you’ll be able to more easily put your clothes away. Plus you’ll fewer clothes to wash.
This is worth the effort, believe me. And it can be downright life changing!
Do you keep a task list? I’m surprised by the number of people I meet who don’t. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that my memory isn’t what it used to be, but I think I’d be lost without my task list. And certainly I’d be less productive.
What’s the best way to keep a task list? If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you know that my answer is that there’s no one right way to do it. The best way is the way that works for you. That said, I think there are some things that are common to all good task lists.
In my opinion, a good task list is:
For years I kept my task list in paper notebooks. Now I keep it in Evernote. I have a notebook called Next Week of My Life and one called Next Hour of my Life. (Those names are adapted from a system created by Mark Forster.) I create a weekly note that’s a master list for the week. And then each day I consult the weekly list as I create a daily note in the Next Hour of my Life notebook, with the notion that I will then plan just an hour’s worth of tasks at a time. I use Evenote’s checkbox bullet for each task so I get the satisfaction of checking off the completed task. This system is working well for me.
There’s no one right way to keep track of your tasks. That said, I believe that getting them out of your head and onto paper or a screen is best. I think our brains have better things to do than remember tasks!